I am not the greatest fan of the guy, but I left the show with a greater appreciation of his work than when I had arrived, which is the best you can hope for. He was on stage for one hour forty five minutes without a break and knocked out all the hits, and he was in pretty good voice throughout. He had a three song segment where he asked for audience requests from his back catalogue, which I thought was quite novel – I had never seen that before. It must have taken quite the effort for him and his band to have an arrangement prepared for anything the audience threw their way.
It felt a little strange to be in a building with eight or ten thousand other people, with hardly a mask in sight, but it’s surprising how quickly you forget about that and just enjoy yourself. There were a few empty seats beside me though, so I didn’t feel too intruded upon.
All in all, Bryan Adams was a great eighties legend to tick off the proverbial list, proving that at least some of those old cats can still rock well into their autumn years without embarrassing themselves.
Last week I went to see Derren Brown’s latest UK tour, Showman. I have seen him live a couple of times before and he never fails to impress. He is unassuming on stage, yet his mere presence demands attention. He is also (quite obviously) extremely clever and exudes such a command over the meticulous design of his show, and everything he says and does, which is undoubtedly a skill that comes in handy in his line of work. He is indeed, a showman.
Of course, I won’t go into any details here about the show itself, suffice to say that it was a masterclass in suggestion and misdirection, and as always, I left the theatre not entirely sure what it was that I just witnessed. A lot of things happened during those two hours that I can’t just explain away, and even though yet again, I didn’t make it onto the stage, many others did. I watched them being randomly selected from the audience, and they all seemed entirely genuine.
If you have ever been on the fence about going to see Derren Brown, or if you are sceptical about all the shenanigans, I would implore you to go and see for yourself. At the very least you will go home entertained, and there’s a fair chance you will be thinking about what happened for many days afterwards.
Yesterday I went to the theatre for the first time since before the world went to shit, and The Rocky Horror Show was about as good a production as any to remind me what life was like in the pre-pandemic years.
I have seen the show twice before, but not for a long time, and I had forgotten just how crazy and unhinged it can be. To be honest, I’m a little surprised that something as politically incorrect as Rocky Horror has slipped under the radar and not yet been cancelled. There are certainly far less inflammatory pieces of media that have run into problems in recent years, but I’m glad that it has survived, because the world needs as much entertainment as it can get right now.
The audience heckled politely – because that is as much a part of the show as Brad and Janet – but they were respectful during the parts when they were meant to stay silent. Nobody ever seems to get out of hand. It’s really quite amazing to see how well it all fits together.
The Rocky Horror Show has been on stage for nearly fifty years, and it shows no sign of slowing down any time soon, which is good to see. It’s just good, unsavoury fun. Check your prudish sensibilities at the door, and you’ll be fine.
Maybe next time I’ll channel Frank and put on my stockings.
A decade ago I was separated, waiting for my divorce to come through, and to be perfectly honest… I didn’t have a direction in my life. I wasn’t happy, although I pretended a lot that I was, and I certainly was no good for anyone else.
I haven’t gone back to check, at least not recently, but my posts from that time period on this blog more often than not reflected my frame of mind. I was in a bad way: I was depressed without the official diagnosis. I don’t say that in an effort to be cool or to grab some belated sympathy, only to in some way show where I was and how far I have come since then.
Everything changed in 2017 when I met the woman who – as of last Tuesday – became my wife. She is good to me but more importantly, she is good for me, in a whole manner of ways that are impossible to lay out for you. Suffice to say I tried to tell her and all those in attendance with my overlong 1200 word speech after the ceremony, but some feelings go beyond words, even for someone who is comfortable writing them down, like I am.
I hope that as we move forward I can prove to her that the vows we exchanged last week were more than just a formality, or the signing of a piece of paper, and that they are something we can build upon in the months and years to come.
There are not many things more stereotypically male than being able to change a tyre, and I had my chance to do just that at work.
I noticed my rear driver’s side tyre was running a little flat about half way through my day. My hope was that I could negotiate the rest of my shift with a little careful driving and speed management… and then I could get around to fixing the problem. Except, of course, that’s not the way things worked out, and I had to pull into the side of the road with the darkness beginning to fall and the rain already doing so.
When I called my boss and asked her if she had any pointers for me, she told me I should know how to do it because, well, I’m a man. True, I am one of those, but I’ve never changed a tyre – I’ve never had any need to do so. I know what needs to be done, just not how to do it. I really think that kind of thing should be a part of every learner’s driving lessons.
So, I watched a YouTube video and one minute and thirty-four seconds later I was ready to give it a go. I managed to get the van off the ground, but… ahem… my nuts were too tight, and no matter how much I channelled my inner strongman I wasn’t able to get the tyre off. As luck would have it, and completely unbeknown to me, I had broken down outside a garage. One of the guys came out to ask if I was all right, then proceeded to finish the job for me in about the length of time it had taken me to watch that video.
Of course, I loosened the nuts for him, but I still had to hand over my Man Card.
We had been based in Chester, so on our last day, before heading off to the Lake District, we thought it would be great to actually check out the town itself.
As it turns out, Chester is an extremely pleasant town to spend the day. I’m not sure why I was surprised… but maybe it’s because I live in a much larger city that only seems to have a fraction of Chester’s charm, with a centre that is nowhere near as alive or thriving.
We spent a good portion of our time there wandering through and marvelling at Chester Cathedral. It’s a glorious example of stonework (as many such buildings are), and the local authorities have gone to great lengths to ensure it is accessible to even the most God-fearing of folk.
We even did the real touristy thing and got on a bright red open-topped bus, and I don’t do that for just any place. Chester is a town I would like to go back to some day, and really spend more time exploring what it has to offer, instead of the four or five hours we gave it this time around.
This entire trip was fashioned around the idea that Liverpool is the largest city in the UK that neither of us had ever visited… and this was the day for all that to change.
We had only left the car park for ten seconds before the city reminded us with a statue that, yes, this was indeed the birthplace of the Beatles. It was fine – I’d be proud of it and using it to empty the tourist wallets too – but it was comical how fast Liverpool told us.
We took the Beatles Story audio tour, which is filled with memorabilia and recreations of the different stages of their career. It’s an interesting excursion, but one that I think could have been better with a couple of tweaks to the format.
Of course, getting to know the Beatles better is one of the two things any newbie has to do in Liverpool – the other is take a ferry ‘cross the Mersey… so we did that as well. It was a shame about the weather (again!) because that experience would have been a lot better in the sunshine.
We spent some time wandering through the Liverpool Museum, and then a couple of hours browsing through the shops at the Royal Albert Dock. All in all we barely ventured away from the water, and before I knew it, it was time to head back to the hotel.
I have only ever spent one night in Wales, and I didn’t get to see much of what the country has to offer then, so I was happy to give it another chance this week.
We left our base in Chester without much of a plan – knowing only that we were heading for a few sights in Wales. Sometimes a little mystery can make for the most fun.
We drove through and stopped at a number of places that were difficult to spell and even harder to pronounce. A lot of what I saw was just a little depressing, and it is clear that Covid’s footprint still lingers. Many stores were boarded up; many lots were empty. It’s a shame because I’m sure these places were once vibrant and thriving. And like the day before, the early weather didn’t help.
We eventually landed on the west coast and spent some time exploring Caernarfon Castle, where I discovered that goats were actually a part of the Welsh military. No, seriously. They get medals and everything.
We stopped off for lunch in the town of Betws-y-coed – a place I will never remember how to say – before we decided to make our way back under black skies…
…but, it began to clear midway through the afternoon and we spent a pleasant few hours strolling along the promenade in Llandudno, driving along a narrow road to the highest point in town, and then finished our day with a lovely meal at a local eaterie.
A week off work was just what the doctor ordered, so we packed our bags and headed south for some relaxation. We had booked in to Chester for a few days, but along the way we stopped off in Blackpool.
I had never been to Blackpool and I had heard conflicting reports about it over the years. Some people seem to think it’s a poor and distant cousin of the entertainment strips that exist on the other side of the pond, while others swear that it’s the best fun you can have with a bucket, a spade, and a pocket full of copper coins. Well, the truth is some where in the middle.
It’s fair to say that the weather (which wasn’t great) had a negative effect on my opinion, because everything looks better in the sunshine – even those ubiquitous tourist stands. We didn’t go up Blackpool Tower because with the fog we would have been lucky to even appreciate we were a few hundred feet off the ground. Still, it’s England in the middle of October – what more do you expect?
But we had fun walking along the prom, and killed a few hours in a clutch of arcades and attractions that really don’t seem to have progressed much past the 1980s.
My grandma was two months short of her ninety-seventh birthday, when she took her final breath yesterday. The dementia had seen her deteriorate over the last half dozen years – slowly at first, but then quite rapidly towards the end – so she hasn’t been the woman I loved for a long time. That person had already moved on, and I have had to make my peace with that.
Still, it’s difficult for me to let go of someone I have known my whole life, no matter how diminished she was when that final curtain was drawn, and no matter how much I wanted it to be over for her. I have wished for her to pass on peacefully in her sleep many times. Is that a little selfish? Sure. I own that. But that pain; that emptiness; that confusion. Those moments when there was just nothing behind her eyes, which were all too frequent in the last few months. She didn’t deserve that – few people do.
On Friday I had been advised that she likely only had a few days left, so I went to visit her yesterday afternoon with the intention of saying goodbye. She was asleep – the doctors had given her a drug to calm her down – and she didn’t look much like the grandma I had seen even just a couple of weeks earlier. She was thin, gaunt, and curled up in the foetal position, and she never acknowledged my presence, but I sat there and I cried for all the good years and the good times we had had just the same.
As I left her side an hour later, after kissing her on the forehead one final time, I knew I would never see her again and that I was just waiting for that phone call. I didn’t expect it quite so soon, but just five hours later she was gone.
But my grandma’s death isn’t about letting her go, or putting her in the rear view mirror. It’s more about making sure I remember the person she was, when she was vibrant and full of life, and about treating those times with the respect they deserve. What she became in the last six years is not that person, and I won’t be remembering her that way. Dementia may have taken my grandma from me, but it won’t rob me of my memories.